Third Time's The Charm
THE THIRD TIME
​July 2019 - current 

​Third Time's The Charm Definition:
The belief or hope that the third attempt at something will be successful. The phrase means that you failed at two previous attempts at completing a task or action but you’ll make it with this attempt. 

​(Carmen‘s perspective) 
We didn’t go into this round “needing”anything from one another. I didn't even realize we had "gone in." I honestly thought we were just “hanging out.” At this stage in our lives, each of us were happy and content with ourselves, we weren’t searching for it in anyone else. Nothing was at stake. We just loved spending time together and we allowed ourselves to simply enjoy it, without pressure or expectation. We didn’t need much reassurance from one another, just authenticity. When we had challenges, we were honest, completely self-expressed and forthcoming. I wasn’t sure where our relationship was going but we made an agreement to stay as long as it felt good, safe and fun and when or if it didn’t, we’d say our goodbyes. Then, after about 5 months, Terry suggested that we be exclusive and then officially asked me to be his girlfriend a few weeks later. We quarantined together during the pandemic and never once felt sick of the other. That was huge! We loved each other's company. We had become best friends and time together always felt natural, safe and so fun! Even my children loved him! We built a solid foundation over those few years. We traveled together, alone, and with the kids and we visited each other’s families together. Then after spending a month in Mexico in 2022 and at my 49th birthday party, in the presence of friends and family, Terry, the love of my life, asked me to be his wife. 

(Terry’s perspective)
This time around there seemed to be waves calmness in our approach from both sides. There was some healing to be had, which occurred through honest conversations with each other and ourselves. We didn’t want to be the main source of happiness for each other, we wanted to add to each other's happiness. I felt that was a major, if not the main page, that turned in order for us to take our relationship to the next level. 
This did not occur overnight. It took months. When it was time to give us a chance again, it felt different. It felt right. It was an over abundance of love and respect. A feeling that I had never felt. I knew then, I needed this feeling for the rest of my life!
​July 2019 - August 2022